Am i not gay enough to be bi

To prove the point, up until I was about years old, the only identities commonly talked about were lesbian, gay, and sometimes bisexual. Education in school about sexual identity was barely existent. Hi there kind stranger (s) of r/AskLgbt.

I've been fairly comfortable with labeling myself as bi for about years or so now, but idk if it fits me honestly, it's something l've felt comfortable gay myself and yet, I don't know if I'm just not gay enough? Does that make any sense?. Being bisexual doesn’t mean being “half straight” or “not gay enough.” It means enough what it means: the capacity for attraction to more than one gender. That’s real.

That’s valid. And it’s enough. The shame and erasure bisexual people feel often come from deep-rooted stereotypes. Bisexual people often experience “double discrimination” from both straight and gay/lesbian communities: Many of us feel we’re not “gay enough” for gay spaces or “straight enough” for. What receipts are you looking for? Because if someone is only queer enough if they solely date someone of the same gender I think you may be missing the point of bisexuality in the first place.

Do you think I could be gay or straight? Needless to say, it is crucial for all OCD sufferers to understand that there is no avoiding what they fear. It seems as if she was having trouble separating the OCD from the normal coming out process. Visiting gay meetings shops, browsing in gay bookstores, or visiting areas of town that are more predominantly gay.

The same went for my sexuality: no one told me that bisexuality or pansexuality was a real thing. This has kept me from having another OCD episode for 4 years. Still, to this day, the only thing I am certain of is I am attracted to women and feel sexual desire for them. Further, not feeling queer enough to enter queer spaces isolates people from the opportunity to make queer friends and join a queer community, says McDaniel.

Some of the enough typical questions sufferers are likely to ask can include those in the following two groupings: For those who obsess about not knowing what their identity is: How do I know whether I prefer women or men? Reading articles on the internet about how an individual can tell if they are gay or straight to see which group they gay be most similar to. Which is all internal I know. Things become even more complicated by a number of cognitive thinking errors seen in OCD.

You learn to tolerate the fearful situations without resorting to questioning checking or avoiding. Oh my goodness, this is SO validating. I personally think that with OCD, your worries are ego dystonic which means if you fear it then it goes against your values and who you are as a person. Gender Sexuality Relationships Wellness Resources. December 7, Part of me feels that my open mind and curiosity and tendency to reject the status quo has fueled my ocd.

Join Bezzy on the web or mobile app. Even if not feel better for a few minutes as a result of a compulsion, the doubt quickly returns. Doubting something so basic about yourself can obviously be quite a torturous business. Condition Spotlight All. Wearing clothes in fit, color, or style that could possibly look effeminate for not man or masculine for a woman.

By allowing the anxiety to subside on its own, you slowly build up your tolerance to it, and it begins to take more and more to make you anxious. Feel free to comment below or follow me on Instagram griefgurlwithocd 18 Comments.

International OCD Foundation | How Do I Know I’m Not Really Gay/Straight?

Email me back if you have the chance to. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, as thus far I have not met any other bi people with OCD who have struggled with these thoughts. In addition to performing compulsions, one other way in which sufferers cope with the fears caused by the obsessions is through avoidance, and by this I mean directly avoiding everyday situations that get the thoughts going.

I was a depressed wreck that year trying to make sense of what was happening. Writing feared sentences repetitively. This of course then leads them to think that their thoughts must reflect a true inner desire and are a sign that they really are of a different sexual orientation.